Read these thoughts…. awesome life lessons….
7 Powerful Quotes For When You Feel Lost In Life
Read these thoughts…. awesome life lessons….
I have felt the same myself many times. And very confident that many would have felt the same. Awesome expression of dilemma of choice we need to make someday.
पहाड़ पर चढ़कर, कुछ देर थमकर,
मन एक दोराहे पर खड़ा होता है |
एक तरफ हैं और ऊँची चोटियाँ, हसीं नजारों का वायदा,
बड़ा नशा भी है, कुछ और चलने का, कहीं भटकने का,
विश्वास कहो या कहो गुरूर, वहां, सबसे ऊपर पहुँचने का,
कुछ तुड़े-मुड़े पन्ने भी हैं कहीं किसी जेब के एक कोने में,
जिनपर अपने हाथ से लिखा था, यूँ ही मधुर सपना बुना था,
समाज की, राष्ट्र की, मानवता की सेवा का संकल्प सजा था,
इस राह में कठिनाइयाँ हैं, राक्षस हैं, मनुष्य हैं, देवता हैं
लोगों का प्यार है, जयजयकार है, मान लो कि सारा संसार है |
एक दूसरा रास्ता भी है, बाहें पसारे, चुपचाप सा
कोई पगडण्डी नहीं बनी है इस पर
टेड़ा मेडा, बेतरतीब, न कोई नियम,
न शब्द, न स्वर,
न तुक, न ताल,
कहीं जाता भी है या नहीं, मैं नहीं जानता, न जानना चाहता हूँ
बस बुलाता है, बिना किसी ख़ुशी का वायदा किये,
खुद से बात करने का,
अंतर्मन को समझने का…
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Are we all not the same somewhere. Beautiful expression of writer which highlights the indifference we all show towards less privileged human beings. Do we actually care or most of are just pretending to be good and merciful humans?
एक बुढिया थी,
वहीँ कहीं, शादीपुर मेट्रो स्टेशन के बाहर,
दरी पर बैठती थी |
मैं वहां से रोज़ जाता,
कभी घिन आती, कभी आती दया,
चुरा के मुह निकल जाता |
कभी कोई साथ होता तो उसको
लम्बा लेक्चर दे मारता,
गरीबी पर, भुखमरी पर, भिख मंगई पर
समाज के उन नासूरो पर,
जो काम न करके मांगते भीख,
हमारी नाक कटाते विदेशियों के सामने,
नयी मेट्रो की शोभा बिगाड़ते,
उन नाकारों पर
जिन पर tax – payers का पैसा,
पानी की तरह लुटा रही सरकार |
लेकिन एक और “मैं” था,
जो मन ही मन रोता उसकी बेबसी पर,
सर्दी में ठिठुरते हाथों पर,
क्या करता, जेब होती खाली
उसे देने को चंद सिक्के न थे |
student ही तो था केवल,
हाँ, गर्लफ्रेंड को पिज्जा हट ले जाना
एक अलग बात थी |
इस वाले “मैं” का मानना था
भीख से गरीबी बढती है |
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Recently I was watching a short film Pinjra. It hit very hard and made me think about the visible and invisible cages we Indian girls enter and keep bound, sometimes without even realising. while reading another Article the writer was asked some uncomfortable questions by her German friend. The plethora of questions ranged like . ‘Did you have a love marriage or did your parents arrange for one?’ ‘What happens if you don’t find someone? Do your parents, anyways insist on finding the right guy for you?’ ‘Do your in-laws approve of you living alone in Germany?‘ ‘Is it safe for females to go out?’ ‘What happens if you have pre-marital sex? Do you tell people or hide it?’ ‘Can you remarry when you are divorced?’ These were complex questions to answer.
Somewhere in the whole conversation, she did not want to sound like somebody who criticized India and made it out to be the worst place for women. So she took the constitutional route, emphasizing that even if socially you find many things awkward and oppressive, India guarantees constitutional rights.
I could feel myself struggling to find the right answers.
Image Credits: Amrita Sher-Gil- Self-Portrait as Tahitian (1934)
I am lucky to be born in a family that made my life easier by being non-intrusive and supportive in equal breadth. I did not have to oscillate between the moral dilemmas of Indian womanhood as often. But it is not as simple as that. I guess many – from siblings to relatives to parents to husbands to boyfriends to neighbors to strangers – take it for granted and preach on a manual of ‘a good charactered’ life. Everybody else seems to know what is best for you, but you! The cacophony of these social messages feeds the psyche with a vicious cycle of guilt, self-doubt, and self-deprecation.
That German friend finally said, ‘It must be really tough being a female in India.’ It just hit me hard and all my struggles flashed peering through ‘the thick-skin’ – my conditioned immune system. I could not agree more with what she said. against the whacks of all these opinions, judgments, remarks and attempts of abuse – physical or emotional. In the life-long struggle between succumbing and fighting, breathing and suffocating, resisting and surrendering; one has to be thick-skinned to find their own voice as a female. Some do but many don’t. And yes, it is true. . Married or single, widowed or divorced, young or old, virgin or non-virgin, menstruating or menopausal; .
Then I watched this video ”Pinjra” (The Cage).
“एक और मेरा माज़ी है जिससे मैं बेहद नाराज़ हूँ| आज़ाद मुस्तकबिल की चाह में जाने कबसे बेकरार हूँ| ये पूछती हूँ अक्सर इस राह पर पहुँचने पे, क्या मैं कोई ख़त्म हुआ इंतज़ार हूँ? खुद की ज़िन्दगी से मै क्या वाकई वफादार हूँ ?” (From the video Pinjra: A short movie)
Hai ajeeb shahr ki zindagi na safar raha na qayaam hai
Kahin karobar si dophar kahin badmizaj si shaam hai
Kahan ab duaon ki barkatein wo naseehatein wo hidayatein
Ye zaroraton ka khuloos hai ye mataalbon ka salaam hai
Yun hi roz milne ki aarzo badi rakh rakhao ki guftgu
Ye sharaafatein nahin be gharaz use aapse koi kaam hai
Wo dilom mein aag lagaayega mein dilon ki aag bujhaunga
Use apne kaam se kaam hai mujhe apne kaam se kaam hai
Na udaas ho na malaal kar kisi baat ka na khyal kar
kai saal baad mile hain ham tire naam aaj ki shaam hai
Koi naghmadhoop key gaon sa koi naghma shaamki chhaon sa
Zara in parindon se poochhna ye kalaam kis ka kalaam hai
Mohabbaton mein dikhawe ki dosti na mila
Agar gale nahin milta to haath bhi na mila
Gharon pe naam they, naamon key saath ohde they
Bahut talaash kiya koi aadmi na mila
Tamaam rishton ko main ghar pe chhod aaya tha
Phir uske baad mujhe koi ajnabi na mila
Khuda ki itni badi kaaynat mein maine
Bas eik shakhs ko manga mujhe wohi na mila
Bahut ajeeb hai ye qurbaton ki doori bhi
Wo mere saath raha aur mujhe kabhi na mila
Parakhna mat parakhne mein koi apna nahin rahta
Kisi bhi aine mein der tak chehra nahin rahta
Bade logon se milne mein hamesha faslaa rakhna
Jahan dariya samandar me mile dariya nahin rahta
Hazaaron sher mere so gaye kaghaz ki qabron mein
Ajab maan hun koi bachcha mera zinda nahin rahta
Tumhara shehr to bilkul naye andaz wala hai
Hamare shehr mein bhi koi hamsa nahin rahta
Mohabbat ek khushboo hai hamesha saath chalti hai
Koi insaan tanhai mein bhi tanha nahin rahta
Koi badal hare mausam ka phie elaan karta hai
Khiza ke baag me jab ek bhi patta nahi rahta
EACH LINE OF THIS GAZAL IS LIKE A JOLT TO REALITY. THE DEPTH OF THOUGHT IS UNSURPASSABLE. ….. PARAKHNA MAT PARAKHNE ME KOI APNA NHI REHTA…THE MOMENT WE TEST OTHERS WE OURSELVES SEPARATE ONESELF FROM THAT PERSON. CAN YOU TEST OTHER WITHOUT SUSPECTING. FURTHER THERE IS COMPLETE CHANCE THAT THE PERSON WHO TEST MAY TURN OUT TO BE A FAKE SUPPORT, THEN WHAT HAPPENS TO YOU IS SHATTERING. NEXT LINE SUMS UP ALL SELF HELP ON THIS PLANET– DARIYA AGAR SAMUNDAR SE MIL JAYE TO DARIYA NHI REHTA …WE ALL ARE PECULIAR ABOUT RETAINING OUR OWN IDENTITY …I DO NOT WICH TO LIVE MY LIFE ACCORDING TO OTHER PERSON, THAT IS WHY MOST OF US WANT SOMEONE WITH WHOM WE CAN BLEND BUT STILL RETAIN OUR OWN UNIQUENESS.
“Nobody else is paying as much attention to your failures as you are. You’re the only ones who are obsessed with the importance of your own life. To everyone else, it’s just a blip on the radar screen, so just move on.” – University of Wisconsin, 2003
I look around and wonder why do people look at a married woman differently ?
She might look better dressed, maybe wearing an ornament or two, that mark her married. But she’s still a girl at heart; sindoor and bindi don’t make her a woman. She may still be learning how to run a home; she still might be struggling to taking care of not just herself but two or more people.
She might not always like to hear ‘what does your husband do ?’…
Marriage doesn’t suddenly turn a girl into a woman.
For that matter having kids
doesn’t necessarily do the same either.
Celebrate who she really is;
celebrate the child in her; she may be anyone around you, ur friend, ur sister, ur mother, a total stranger.
She’s not supposed to be responsible for innumerous things, countless chores; it’s just her desire for perfection that she does what she does.
This is for every wonderful woman I know.
Grow up… but take your own sweet time & let the li’l girl in you live forever.
And for all my male friends… cherish her, love her and most importantly let her be… She wasn’t born to take care of you, it’s her heart that makes her do so.
– An Article by Chetan Bhagat
Stroke has a new indicator! Read and pass on….
Stroke has a new indicator
Stroke – They Now Have a Fourth Indicator, the Tongue
STROKE: Remember the 1st Three Letters…..
S. T. R.
During a BBQ, a woman stumbled and took a little fall – she assured everyone that she was fine (they offered to call paramedics) …she said she had just tripped over a brick because of her new shoes.
They got her cleaned up and got her a new plate of food. While she appeared a bit shaken up, Jane went about enjoying herself the rest of the evening.
Jane’s husband called later telling everyone that his wife had been taken to the hospital – (at 6:00 PM Jane passed away.) She had suffered a stroke at the BBQ. Had they known how to identify the signs of a stroke, perhaps Jane would be with us today. Some don’t die. They end up in a helpless, hopeless condition instead.
It only takes a minute to read this.
A neurologist says that if he can get to a stroke victim within 3 hours he can totally reverse the effects of a stroke…totally. He said the trick was getting a stroke recognized, diagnosed, and then getting the patient medically cared for within 3 hours, which is tough.
RECOGNIZING A STROKE
Thank God for the sense to remember the ‘3’ steps, STR. Read and Learn!
Sometimes symptoms of a stroke are difficult to identify. Unfortunately, the lack of awareness spells disaster. The stroke victim may suffer severe brain damage when people nearby fail to recognize the symptoms of a stroke.
Now doctors say a bystander can recognize a stroke by asking three (3) simple questions:
S *Ask the individual to SMILE.
T *Ask the person to TALK and SPEAK A SIMPLE SENTENCE (Coherently)
(i.e. Chicken Soup)
R *Ask him or her to RAISE BOTH ARMS.
If he or she has trouble with ANY ONE of these tasks, call emergency number immediately and describe the symptoms to the dispatcher.
New Sign of a Stroke ——– Stick out Your Tongue!
NOTE: Another ‘sign’ of a stroke is this: Ask the person to ‘stick’ out his tongue. If the tongue is
‘crooked’, if it goes to one side or the other that is also an indication of a stroke.
A cardiologist says if everyone knows about it then cases of stroke will decline sharply. Let’s educate ourselves.